Sex Therapy

Sex therapy is talk therapy focused on sexuality, intimacy, relationships, pleasure, desire, and the many experiences that can shape our sexual lives.

Depending on what brings you to therapy, we might explore emotions, relationship dynamics, communication, beliefs about sexuality, past experiences, body awareness, desire, pleasure, shame, or patterns that emerge around intimacy.

There is no sexual activity or physical sexual contact between therapist and client. Like other forms of therapy, our work happens through conversation, reflection, education, and therapeutic practices designed to support greater awareness, connection, and choice.

Not at all.

Some people come to sex therapy because something feels difficult—differences in desire, difficulty experiencing pleasure or orgasm, sexual anxiety, shame, changes in sexual functioning, or challenges communicating about sex.

Others come because they are curious. You may want to understand your sexuality more deeply, become more comfortable expressing what you want, reconnect with desire, explore your relationship with pleasure, or create a sexual life that feels more authentic and fulfilling.

Sex therapy does not have to begin with something being “wrong.”

Absolutely. Many of us were never given spaces where sexuality could be talked about openly, honestly, and without judgment.

You may have learned that certain desires, questions, bodies, identities, or experiences were inappropriate, shameful, or simply not supposed to be discussed. It makes sense that bringing sexuality into therapy can initially feel vulnerable.

You get to move at your own pace. My role is to create a space where we can approach sexuality with curiosity, compassion, and respect rather than judgment or shame.

Yes. Differences in desire are incredibly common in relationships and do not automatically mean that something is wrong with either partner or with the relationship.

Rather than deciding whose level of desire is “correct,” we can become curious about each person's experience. We may explore how desire works for each of you, the meanings attached to sex, experiences of initiation and rejection, pressure, emotional connection, stress, body image, relationship dynamics, and the conditions that help desire emerge.

The goal is not to force desire or create a particular amount of sex. It is to develop greater understanding, communication, connection, and possibility around your sexual relationship.

You are allowed not to know.

Many people have spent more time learning how to be desirable, responsive, accommodating, or attentive to someone else's pleasure than discovering their own wants, boundaries, preferences, and desires.

Sex therapy can offer space to become curious about your sexuality without needing to perform or arrive at a particular answer. Together, we can explore what helps you feel connected to your body, your pleasure, your boundaries, and your own internal sense of yes, no, and maybe.

Yes. Sexual shame can come from many places—family messages, religion or culture, past relationships, experiences of rejection, societal expectations, gender roles, body image, identity, or messages about what sexuality is “supposed” to look like.

Rather than treating shame as something to simply overcome, we can become curious about where those messages came from, how they have shaped your relationship with sexuality, and which beliefs you still want to carry.

Over time, you can begin creating a relationship with sexuality that feels more compassionate, embodied, and authentically your own.

Both individuals and partners can benefit from sex therapy.

Individual sex therapy may focus on your relationship with sexuality, desire, pleasure, your body, identity, shame, sexual experiences, or patterns that emerge in relationships. When partners attend together, we may also explore communication, differences in desire, intimacy, trust, sexual patterns, and how to create a sexual relationship that makes room for both people's experiences.

You do not need to be partnered—or sexually active—to explore your sexuality in therapy.

There is no universal definition.

A healthy sexual life is not determined by how often you have sex, what kinds of sex you enjoy, how much desire you experience, whether you are partnered, or whether your sexuality resembles anyone else's.

Rather than measuring your sexual life against what you think it should look like, our work can help you explore what feels consensual, connected, pleasurable, authentic, and meaningful to you.

The goal isn't to create a “normal” sex life. It's to help you create a relationship with sexuality that feels more genuinely your own.