Non-Traditional Relationship Therapy

Your relationship structure isn't the problem. Let's understand what is happening within the relationships themselves.

Let’s create relationships intentionally & consciously, together. Relationships do not have to follow a traditional socially normative script to be healthy, fulfilling, meaningful, or deeply loving.

I offer affirming therapy for people navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, and other nontraditional relationship structures.

My role is not to determine what your relationship should look like. It is to help you explore whether the relationships you are creating are consensual, intentional, communicative, emotionally safe, and aligned with your values.

The relationship is my client.

You may be navigating…

  • “We’re thinking about opening our relationship.”

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Opening a relationship can bring excitement, curiosity, fear, and uncertainty, sometimes all at once. We create space to explore what non-monogamy means to each of you, what you hope it may make possible, and what concerns may be asking for care. Together, we can build the communication, trust, and clarity needed to make intentional choices about what you want your relationship to become.

  • “One of us wants non-monogamy and the other(s) aren't sure.”

    Together, We Can Explore…
    When partners want different things, the goal is not to convince either person toward a particular outcome. We slow down and make room for each person’s desires, fears, boundaries, and needs. Together, we can explore what feels authentic, what feels uncertain, and whether there is a path forward that honors both connection and individual autonomy.

  • Jealousy, insecurity, or fear of being replaced

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Rather than treating jealousy as something to eliminate, we become curious about what it may be communicating. Together, we can explore the needs, fears, attachment patterns, and vulnerabilities underneath it while developing tools for reassurance, emotional regulation, communication, and greater trust in yourself and your relationships.

  • Creating or revisiting relationship agreements

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Agreements can create clarity and care, but relationships evolve, and sometimes the agreements that once worked no longer fit. We can clarify the difference between boundaries, agreements, rules, and preferences while creating conversations rooted in consent, honesty, flexibility, and mutual respect.

  • Difficulty communicating needs and boundaries

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Nontraditional relationships can ask us to become more intentional about communicating what we want, what we need, and where our limits are. We practice expressing these things clearly while remaining curious about the needs of others, helping you create relationships where honesty and connection can exist alongside autonomy.

  • Navigating time, attention, and multiple relationships

    Together, We Can Explore…
    When multiple relationships, partners, responsibilities, and needs are present, finding balance can become complicated. Together, we can explore expectations around time, attention, communication, and care while creating practices that help each relationship feel considered without losing connection to your own needs and capacity.

  • “We keep comparing ourselves to other partners.”

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Comparison can quickly turn difference into a question of worth. We can slow down the stories that emerge around being enough, being chosen, or needing to compete, while strengthening self-trust and creating more direct conversations about reassurance, security, desire, and what makes each connection meaningful.

  • Attachment, trust, and emotional security

    Together, We Can Explore…
    Security does not have to mean certainty or exclusivity. Together, we can explore what helps you feel emotionally safe, valued, and connected while strengthening your capacity to navigate vulnerability, change, and uncertainty. The goal is not to eliminate difficult feelings, but to build relationships that can hold them with greater care.

  • Repairing after agreements or trust have been broken

    Together, We Can Explore…
    When an agreement is broken or trust has been hurt, the impact can reach far beyond what happened. We create space to understand the rupture, take meaningful accountability, and identify what each person needs in order to move forward. Repair becomes an opportunity to rebuild trust with greater clarity, honesty, and intention.

  • Creating relationships that actually fit who you are

    Together, We Can Explore…
    There is no single right way to build a relationship. Therapy can be a space to question inherited expectations and become more intentional about the relationships you want to create. Together, we can explore your values, desires, boundaries, and hopes so that your relationships are shaped less by what they are supposed to look like and more by what feels authentic, consensual, and meaningful to you.

Ready to create relationships that feel like your own?

There is no single right way to create a relationship. If you’re ready to navigate change with greater clarity, communicate more openly, and create relationships rooted in trust, consent, and authenticity, I invite you to take the next step.

BOOK RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

  • I welcome people across a wide range of relationship structures, including ethical or consensual non-monogamy (ENM/CNM), polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, monogamish relationships, and people who are questioning or exploring what relationship structure feels right for them.

    You do not need to fit neatly into a particular label. Our work can begin with understanding the relationships you are actually creating and what matters to the people within them.

  • Not at all.

    Some people come to therapy with an established non-monogamous relationship structure, while others are considering opening a previously monogamous relationship, renegotiating existing agreements, or simply questioning whether traditional relationship expectations still fit.

    Therapy can offer space to explore these questions thoughtfully rather than assuming there is one relationship structure that is right for everyone.

  • You do not have to arrive wanting the same thing.

    When partners are in different places, therapy can help slow the conversation down so that neither person's experience is dismissed or rushed. Together, we can explore the hopes, fears, needs, boundaries, and meanings underneath each person's position while making room for honest conversations about consent and choice.

    The goal is not to convince either partner to become monogamous or non-monogamous. It is to create space for greater clarity about what each person genuinely wants and what may—or may not—be possible within the relationship.

  • Yes. Jealousy does not necessarily mean that you are “bad at” non-monogamy or that something is wrong with your relationship.

    Rather than treating jealousy as an emotion you should overcome, we can approach it with curiosity. Jealousy may point toward fear, insecurity, comparison, attachment needs, past experiences, unmet needs, or uncertainty within the relationship.

    Our work can help you understand what the emotion is communicating while developing greater capacity to respond to it with self-awareness, communication, and care.

  • These words are sometimes used interchangeably, but understanding the difference can profoundly change how partners navigate autonomy and consent.

    In therapy, we can explore what belongs to you as an individual, what you are mutually agreeing to within the relationship, and where attempts to create safety may unintentionally become attempts to control another person's choices.

    The goal is not to eliminate agreements or boundaries, but to create them with greater clarity, consent, flexibility, and respect for everyone involved.

  • Broken agreements can create real hurt regardless of relationship structure. Non-monogamy does not mean that anything goes or that betrayal cannot happen.

    Therapy can provide space to understand what occurred, acknowledge its impact, explore accountability, and clarify what would be needed for repair. We can also examine whether existing agreements still reflect the needs and capacities of everyone involved or whether something needs to be renegotiated.

  • Yes. One of the central questions within any relationship is how to remain connected to others without losing connection to yourself.

    Nontraditional relationships can bring questions of autonomy, attachment, time, boundaries, responsibility, intimacy, and individuality into particularly clear focus. Our work can explore how to care deeply for your relationships while remaining honest about your own needs, limits, desires, and evolving sense of self.

    Healthy interdependence can make room for both belonging and freedom.

  • No.

    I do not approach monogamy or non-monogamy as inherently healthier, more evolved, or more successful than the other. Every relationship structure carries possibilities, challenges, responsibilities, and opportunities for growth.

    Rather than prescribing what your relationship should look like, our work is about helping you create relationships rooted in consent, communication, self-awareness, honesty, and intentional choice.

    The question is not whether your relationship looks traditional. It is whether the relationships you are creating are aligned with the values, needs, and agreements of the people within them.

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